As a Japanese single man, I occasionally get an offer of a meeting with a Japanese woman, arranged by my relatives (usually my aunts!). My relatives are hoping that the meeting would develop into something more "intimate" and that eventually I'd decide to get married with that woman. This is so-called Omi'ai, or an arranged marriage, a kind of a modern version thereof, that is still exercised in Japan.
Whenever I get such offer, I could say that "sorry, I'm gay!" - and end of the story. But, I usually condemn my relatives in that they underestimate my ability to find my soul-mate. Whether I am gay or not, my point is pretty clear: Why do I need someone else's help to find the one that I want to be with? I personally find it human rights violation in a sense. As I've mentioned this to them so many time, I no longer hear from them these days!
But, what I want to say here is the fact that gay men in Japan, and perhaps everywhere, are getting so much pressure to get married with a woman. This is one indication of oppressive heterosexualism that gay men need to bear throughout their lives. By the way, as the current gay marriage movement develops, will I be then pressurized to get married with a man?